I hope you realize you're lucky to get such great advice from several vets.
You might want to read my sitch because my WW also left me and lives with an OM. I'm not a success story in the sense of a reconciliation (yet) but I've progressed a lot in the last few months and I can say that I'm feeling better and heading towards happiness. By the way, my MIL detested me so much (by birth) that she ignored her only child (my W) for two years, including the time of our first pregnancy and birth. She did not poison our R like your FIL did though.
Cadet gave you great advice about your changes. Focus on making them, not on how or when she will see them. With your SS16 anyway, there will ways be a channel. Keep in mind that success stories take some 1-2 years. Don't expect anything just now, work on yourself.
Mza, your thread is locked! Humph.......
However he comes a massive 4x4 ten times over with lots of buckets of cold water.
Frankly V is slightly cross with you!
There is a wonderful success story in you. There is the story of the miner who looked for diamonds everywhere, they don't look like polished stones when you find them. They have to be cut by other diamonds because they are hard to cut and polish. But there were diamonds in than miners life under his own feet. Ready to dig and polish.
Mza, YOU are the success you were looking for all along.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
