So our meeting about dividing the assets has been moved to tonight. I'm feeling anxious because it usually turns into an argument, but I am going to try my hardest not to let that happen tonight.
If this is the case then please use a mediator. Put your proposals in writing too, key notes with lots of space on the page so you can add details. Stick to facts not emotions.
I need some advice. Anytime I don't agree with what he thinks is fair, he will say he knew I was going to "leave him high and dry" or "leave him on the street with nothing".
Start with a schedule to demonstrate this.
That is not true, but I am not going to just roll over and let him have everything and force me out of my house either.
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In his eyes I am controlling and manipulative and sticking up for myself in the settlement without reinforcing these beliefs is going to be hard. So I'm not quite sure how to approach that.
Stick to listing assets and liabilities. Ignore emotions.
We both would like to work this out amongst ourselves and not have to pay lawyers, but I have told him that we may need to look into a mediator or getting lawyers if we can't come to an agreement.
You will need a list of assets and liabilities. There are many schedules on the iInternet to use as templates. Frankly I would not chose to do this in a meeting, you may end up with more heat than light. Get the basics done and listed then email and mediate.
In reality this ideally should be left to the professionals.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
