where do I begin?

[twinmom]

So sometime in mid March my H hit rock bottom. Like "wtf has my life come to" kinda thing. He started seeing an IC that specializes in addiction, he did so without me even knowing. He has told me numerous times he doesn't want a divorce but will let me go if that's what I choose. For the past few months I have seen him make some huge changes (without me asking/even giving verbal indication I still wanted our marriage)

He no longer talks to me about his family/pressures me or makes me feel like the "bad guy" in situations with his family.

He makes it a point to tell me how much he respects me for staying at home and taking care of the kids AND bringing in an income.

He talks about work, not just saying "everything's great" but actually talks about what's going on.

He has actually shared his fears with me, this is something he always kept to himself and never showed vulnerability.

He asks to spend time with me and the kids BUT respects my decision when I have said I wanted alone time with them. Or just time to myself. There is no longer this feeling of "he got his way again"

He has asked me, "is there anything I can do to make this up to you and not loose you and our family?"

I'm cautious, it's only been two months tops that he has been seeing the IC. But in that time he has stopped being "pushy" and really started respecting my space/wishes. No more kissing my forehead and although he stays here most nights he doesn't grab a pillow/blanket without asking me if I'm ok with it.

The nights he has ended up in bed with me have been because I initiated it (why do I have to enjoy sex so much?)


He has offered for me to look at his phone any time I want. A NC letter seems pointless as SHE ended it with him (almost a year ago)

Any thing I am missing/should look for? Is this the time for me to look back at my initial 180's and make sure they have become habit? We have been in limbo/weird roommate zone for so long I feel unsure of everything.