I just caught up with your entire sitiuation. I'm sorry you are here but hope you have discovered that this is the best place for you to be now. I joined Christmas Day and have found this site to like one huge, loving family.
Tha answer to your question is easy. You've been married 22 years. It is very normal, even though your H is in an A. My situation is different. My W walked out on me and filed for D 6 months ago, yet I still love her. She has MS and felt I was smothering her (being over-protective) which I was but didn't realize it. The only reason I bring up my sitch is because no matter how badly or immature our spouse is acting, the one who wants to save the M usually has a very hard time letting go. I sure do.
Wonka, always gives great advice and though-provoking qestions, and has helped me so much.
Wonka posted this a while ago in your thread and I think it's important to keep this is mind: "People who are in the beginning stages of an A are not right up in their heads. Totally messed up and they block out everything in their minds except the OW/OM. It is all about getting their "fix" from the dopamine....OW/OM. They behave like a drug addict."
I will dedicate a prayer to you tonight, AHW.
Your new friend - Bob
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Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
