I know there are no guarantees but.....

[Dawn70]

XFit, I saw your note on my thread late last week and I am so sorry I am just now getting a chance to read your sitch and comment. In some ways, it seems that our sitches are quite similar. You asked for advice and you have some great folks already giving you advice. All I can tell you is what worked for me. I had to come to the realization that the XH who walked away from me was NOT the same person I married and fell in love with. It has taken a LOT of counseling, a lot of talks with friends and family and quite honestly, anti-depressants to get me to the ok stage. I wish I could have used DB and DR to keep the D from happening, but it is clear to me now that my XH already had his new woman waiting in the wings and NOTHING I did was going to bring him back. I have just really had to focus on me and trying to move forward. I'm lucky that I am REALLY busy at work right now, so that helps occupy my time. I wish I had some magic answer to give you but all I can say is that being on this site, reading what others said and getting feedback from people. There are some GREAT folks here and you have some of the best already commenting: Cadet, Sandi, etc.

Let me just say this, we are all different and going through our own things, but it seems that we occasionally find those who have similar sitches and we feel even more of a kinship.

Xfit, I don't have any earth shattering fix all remedy. Time is going to make a world of difference for me. Time and distance. I, like you, have stepchildren that I still consider mine and it helps to be able to still have a relationshp with them outside of their dad.

Hang in there, keep posting and reading all the wonderful advice and I will check in on you again. Feel free to "talk" to me anytime. I don't know that I have great advice, but I'm always willing to "listen".

((((Xfit))))