7 weeks in feels like a lifetime.

[Lynn80]

Seven weeks ago I finally pursued my husband for answers and the answer I got was "my son is most important to me. I am just not happy and we will not work out" by the next day it was talk of the big D. We went to counseling and he was open. By the next session he was opposed. We spent 4 weeks in discernment counseling for him to decide if he was willing to work on marriage. At the end he has decided he is willing to work on parenting our 4yo but still feels it is over.

Where I struggle is in his waffling. He won't touch me for weeks then he gives me a hug and says I look nice. He goes out until 2am and come home to say he is sorry. Then the next day initiates a convo around how he is just not sure he is willing to try. We have a great day with son. He sleeps in the guest room then returns to our room the next night. I am 180ing and TLR as much as I can. The counselor who recommended DR to me is helpful but isn't positive the good steps are intentional. Did this happen to you? H out then in then out. Looking for hope that it is a positive sign even if the words aren't there.