Tulo, please calm down, in the first week of me coming back abroad to work, I was 'watching' his movements on track my iphone knowing he was with OW, making my self sick with anxiety.

My anxiety was through the roof, we CANNOT change what they do, we can only change how we respond to it. I was calling him all day, thinking if I contacted him he would realise it was me he wanted, how much I love him etc..... All these things DO NOT WORK. My behaviour may of contributed to his reasons and need to get away from my me :-(

Even now, I am overanalysing his emails, does he care, any regrets etc how long did he take to answer my emails, how did he sign off etc. What we are doing is only prolonging our suffering.

Backing off is the best you can do, please take Zues advice, If you read my prior post, this may of changed the position my H arnd I are in now.

I am giving you this advice even though I know how difficult it is. It does get better. One thing that really helped me was exercising!

Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18
EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13
Move to work abroad Sept 14
re establish contact with OW while away
D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15