Heavy d. I don't get your exact situation or what you ww means or meant to you. However, I can sympathize and understand. It's tough to feel like if you kept hanging in there and fighting that maybe she would come around and then you have a chance to be stronger together for it. That you're letting down your family and everyone else because clearly she's not thinking straight, she's a ww and addicted to the affair. So, by letting go you are responsible for killing any chance of repair and any chance of that family.
You are not responsible for that, neither am I. You are right in that you will get through this and the time you feel alone, weak and depressed are better than being married to someone you can't trust, that doesn't respect you nor love you the way you deserve.
These are all things I know you know and things everyone else will tell you too. I also understand the brain and logic come to that conclusion much faster than your heart does.
I wish you the best and appreciate you keeping us posted. We're all rooting for you and know you'll come out of this on top!
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23