I should state that unhealthy was not the right word above, I should have used the term abnormal. Basically, we got to a phase of marriage that was ho-hum. I was okay with this as it seemed we had refocused our life on the kids. WW seems to have struggled during this time, PPD, depression, boredom, no 5LL, I don't know; but she never expressed any one of these things to me nor did I see it.

EA was her solution
PA was her solution
Trying to convince him to leave his GF was her solution
Leaving me as a final stand was her solution
Deciding not to work on M, holding out hope for OM, her solution
Still holding onto this fantasy even though everything around her is crumbling, her solution

This may sound like I'm mad, but I'm not. I'm not bitter, I'm not resentful. WW decided to lead her life in a lie in order to think she can use others to make herself happy, and it's not working. She's crumbling

I care for her so much, but I can't change her solution to her problems. Only she can change that and I still pray that my patience holds out to intersect with her recovery.....I hope that I'll be there when she needs someone, even though I seem like the last person she would reach out too, but I can't do anything about that. I'll stick with it as long as I can, but I can't stay in limbo forever.

M:36 W:37
T: 15 M:11
S6 D5
BD: 8/10/14
IDLY: 8/12/14
S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids)
D Mentioned: 10/15/14
Confronted about OM: 10/15/14
EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13
She filed: 8/15 (not final)