Thing you have to start doing is detach and get out of his head ... this will help you in many areas .. one of which is right there in front of you
You detached and your H started pursuing you, motorcycle ride, THEN you decided to TM him, you flipped it and started pursuing .. he immediately backed off .... DB ... Do what works right?
GAL and PMA, get busy doing your thing and make yourself someone he WANTS to be with, not out of guilt or obligation.