My wife is in this habit of sending me "no subject" emails. That's how she told me she wanted a divorce. It's how she wants to arrange custody, work out our financial situation, etc. I've explained to her many times how this approach does not work for me. I hate it.
She likes to include stuff whenever she gets an opportunity about how she's mad at me, or dosent want to be married to me.
So I live in fear of the no subject email. For over a month now. She still keeps sending them along.
So she just sent me an email with a subject "pretty awesome" about how her former bosses son got drafted in the NFL. Just like she'd have done when we were married.
It pisses me off because (much more then) half the time she's telling me exactly how she's going to tear my family apart and rip my heart out of my chest and I feel like a complete failure,
then every once in a while she just acts like things haven't changed at all
And THAT drives me a million times more bonkers then if she'd just hate on me all the time.
Me: 35 Her (WAW): 34 D8, S5, D2 T:16, M:9 BD + D: 4/3/2015 EA Confirmed 5/6/2015 Separation under the same roof
I understand completely. While I haven't gotten anything like that in a few weeks, when I read back through my texts, the last ones she sent just before S are about Game of Thrones and chocolate. Like there wasn't anything wrong.
I really enjoy photography. I was putting some pictures together last night. I mostly do candids of the kids.
I was going backwards by timestamp, and when I got to the point where we filed for D, and just like you are saying, there's a bunch of fun, silly ones with my wife and all 3 kids...just impromptu fun family time.
Me: 35 Her (WAW): 34 D8, S5, D2 T:16, M:9 BD + D: 4/3/2015 EA Confirmed 5/6/2015 Separation under the same roof
Piling on top of all this, I got a notice from her lawyer adding spousal support to the list of things she's asking for, and also responding legally that she does not believe our marriage can be saved.
I hate this.
Me: 35 Her (WAW): 34 D8, S5, D2 T:16, M:9 BD + D: 4/3/2015 EA Confirmed 5/6/2015 Separation under the same roof
I know exactly how youre feeling Winhamn. Its like they rip your heart our and then stomping on it to remind you. Just remember to not believe anything they say and 50% of what they do. Your spouse will speak in absolute negatives because he/she is hurting and scared.
Me-35 W-34 Married 6/2011 T-6 years S-2 BD-3/22/2015
"It pisses me off because (much more then) half the time she's telling me exactly how she's going to tear my family apart and rip my heart out of my chest and I feel like a complete failure,"
Calm down. You know this isn't her intention. It's your interpretation of this. While it's hard not to take it as a personal attack, you have to understand that it really isn't about you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Calm down. You know this isn't her intention. It's your interpretation of this. While it's hard not to take it as a personal attack, you have to understand that it really isn't about you.
You've really just summed up a slew of my emotional problems all at once.
Me: 35 Her (WAW): 34 D8, S5, D2 T:16, M:9 BD + D: 4/3/2015 EA Confirmed 5/6/2015 Separation under the same roof
Hey...I just finished reading your thread and the way or reason for your D according to your W is similar to what I've had to go thru with H. He's been bogged down with work and has been withdrawing himself, putting up walls.And I've always thought that I'd be the one to ask for a D...but he's the one who did!
