Help for Newbie

[Winhamn]

You are making absolutely valid arguments and observations.

I think you are right on track thinking she has a void in her that only she can heal, but she's trying to find someone else to heal it.

Yes it probably is a pattern. It will probably continue in some form.

Again, I would encourage you to read some books on being married to a survivor of sexual abuse. I have some sitting around, you are welcome to them if you like. PM me your address.

I'm not saying you should or shouldn't, but this is a life changing decision and I think you should be well informed about the specific nuances of dealing with someone who was sexually abused.