I was re-reading the lighthouse story. Part of "being the lighthouse", is protecting children from OP.
The OM is around in the neighborhood during the day and also comes to my children's school. Last year, he brought my D8 home from the bus stop. It was a very cold day, but my W was going to be there 5 minutes later. In retrospect, W may have asked OM to picker D8 up. My W obviously saw nothing wrong with this - and said so to me and our Rabbi.
Obviously, contact between the OM and my children is inappropriate. How does one set this particular boundary? More importantly, how does one enforce this boundary. Anyone with any experience?
