Alpha Step At A Time #5

[alpha99]

I can't argue with your analysis Starksy.

In ten plus years I never went near another woman. Now my W has had an A and our marriage is all but over - only the official process of ending it seems to remain, of course a new world has opened up. Again, I'm at pains to point out I didn't seek out these dates. I could have said no for sure. I haven't discussed this with my W because she very clearly wants little to do with me besides childcare arrangements.

I do believe I am working hard on myself. I'd say my major flaw has been an unending reservoir of sarcasm aimed at everyone I know. That has been toned right, right down. I've made new friends through being more confident and socialising, I've taken part in different activities I would never have been to only a short while ago, I am working on improving my career, and I've changed my dress sense and attitude. I make sure to put my children first (taking them on a great day out next weekend) and I feel quite content with myself. I'm not perfect, I never will be, and maybe technically I should wait before M is officially over before I attempt to move on with someone else - this is something only a short while ago I'd have never even contemplated whilst still in a M. I hope my principles are still in tact, and it's definitely not the case of W did this or that so it's fine for me, more that W ended our M and so life goes on regardless.