again "this affair has nothing to do with my leaving" or I'm outta here. So here I am.
This sounds very familiar. I feel your pain with the kids. Being forced into being a part-time dad is a horrible experience.
So, I can certainly sympathize with your situation. The selfishness is astonishing, although I had glimpses of it in my situation, I didn't realize how deep it went. I keep telling myself that the lies and deceit will eventually catch up. But waiting for it is hard.
You're in my thoughts.
Me: 45 W43 S7, Foster S9 (Planning to adopt post divorce) D mentioned Feb 2015, Wife served 3/24/2015. She moved out 4/15/2015.