Card29 XI - Journey

[Card29]

I liked your willingness to "hear" what we have to say and your wanting to work on yourself.

A lot of times, when we feel better, stronger, happier, we kind of slack off a bit on doing the work. I am not saying you are doing that, not at all.

I do believe I have slacked. I know you couldn't know that, especially since I have not posted as frequently this Winter/Spring as I did last Summer/Fall.

I believe that you should finish your stuff before you start a new relationship. I dont mean finish working on you because that should continue for the rest of our lives.

But I mean people should get divorced if that is how their sitch turns out, before dating. I think people should be alone for awhile and just live, ya know?

I do agree. I think last week when we had our "talk" I felt like I was ready and she wasn't, but now I do think it's both of us that aren't ready, although I'm probably closer. And also, I do understand that this is not advice for me and this one girl. It's for me in general, and who knows what will happen with her. Focused on me.

You say that she hasnt been with anyone since February like its a long time...its two months.

I didn't mean to imply it was a long or adequate amount of time to develop. But I think I foolishly compared her post-R behavior to my STBX, who hasn't been single for more than a week or two since she left me. So 2 months single and the desire to remain single until she can "figure herself out" and "trust herself again" sounded good to me, for her sake. But I shouldn't have compared her to anyone else, and I just need to let her live her life and hope, for her sake, that she does find time to learn about herself.

I care about you. I hope you know that. I am glad you are looking at it the way you are.

Just live your life. Get good with you. Plenty of time for all of that.

If it's meant to be, it will be. Til then...keep walking your path.

Big thumbs up from Cardland! ((uR))