W has been a lot more open with me about everything recently, and seems content being around now. I know this is not a popular decision here, but I have honestly decided to not even check on her communications. Somewhat a waste of time to me as she can always just get around it, and it puts me in an anxious state, though I might decide to do a much less often check. I can tell if she is there by how she acts. Before, she did not want to do anything with me alone, only with S around. Sex was out of the question, because she felt like "we were brother and sister," acts of kindness were nearly non-existent, work around the house would never get done, did not want to talk to me about anything, especially how she was feeling. All of this has changed. Maybe it is a temporary ruse, but I will know in time.
It has nothing to do with being a "popular" opinion or not, TryIt10 -- it has to do with what has historically been effective. It's taking advantage of the wisdom of those who have come before you, and everything they've been thru, and trying to learn from their mistakes.
In my opinion, you're letting her back too easy, and setting yourself up for disaster.
