So the question - is there another way to build confidence in your value to a member of the opposite sex without trying to become a playboy? If not, is there something wrong with the path I would then choose above?
I'll echo what JellyB has already said. Each to their own - I'm sure you do just fine, Zues. The reality is that the lady on the receiving end is most likely struggling with the confidence just as much as you! As for your value - well the very fact that you are posting in this forum says a lot about your value!
I know I'm banging on about the books by Schnarch, but one of the other core concepts is about self vs other validated intimacy. Knowing who you are and what you are about rather than relying on someone else's view of you (i.e. being able to share your video with someone else no matter what they think about it) - that's self-validated intimacy....and its the key to being able to tolerate really close relationships without feeling like you've lost yourself.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
