I hucked a waterfall.

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I think as parents we disappoint our kids regardless of whether or not we are married or divorced. Obviously, D itself is a huge heartbreak and disappointment to our kids (in normal circumstances). You need to let her make and fix her own mistakes with the kids, as you will have to do. I've never really thought about it, but when you are in a happy, supportive marriage you probably don't see those disappointments as readily because you are making them together, and if not together you are still a team and most likely overlook them.

Looking back I can see that H and I were disappointing our kids and because we were so disconnected it became another "fault" with each other. (if that makes sense)

"From my perspective this is still a little ridiculous. She was supposed to pick her stuff up in November. Any thoughts on how I should handle this?"

Does it have to be handled? How is this affecting you? Why are you so adamant that she remove her stuff? Can you move them to the garage or a spare room? Just questions...