My ww brought up counseling for the boys tonite also. I've already had the no open marriage talk. However, imo when it comes to co parenting and communicating, that's different. I would go to conseling.
As a wife and a friend she has disrespected you and is failing. As a mom, she may be doing ok. It's tough for me too, but I have to see it in different ways. Would I not go to a parent/teacher meeting just because she was there? Would I not see my sons sports game because of her? Not a chance, I'd be there. So, why wouldn't I go to counseling for them and not worry about her.
I do agree that family fun things like trips or movies, etc should be put on hold, but necessary things like this for their betterment, I view differently.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23