Bob, sorry I've been away from the boards gal and trying to get through my sitch as best I can. Just got caught up on the last couple of days for you. Sorry it's been so rough with your wife distant and the callous feeling of the text back.
I know that all too well, but it does get easier. Detaching and keeping busy helps along with time. Imo time by itself won't do much and could make it worse, but if you fill it with your 180 and ways to make yourself a better person and love yourself more, as everyone here clearly does, you'll find more indifference to what your ww is currently doing or saying. It will allow you freedom to just be.
I've only been having glimpses of that, but they've been great. I know they've only come as a result of me stopping my fear of letting go and losing her. She's already gone and I was the only one who hadn't accepted it yet
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23