Surrendering this battle to win the war.

[Pyrite]

And though she is stubbornly against anything that suggests that maybe destroying her family isn't in her best interest...at some point she may hit ROCK BOTTOM.

this highlights one point - she hit rock bottom. she ended her M. Now she is on the upside. how strong is she? can she beat out all the negatives? with doting OM on her arm ( foreigner - desperate to stay in country to boot - so no boat rocking on his side) - odds are on her side.

Looking over my shoulder is nothing but a tripping hazard. If she taps me on the shoulder, I might turn around. If it was today or next week I surely would. But in 6 months time? When the kids are settled. The house is sold. I can be the leader of my family. Me and my girls. But she is capable to be the leader of hers.