Letting Go Part II

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You should never deprive your kids of the other parent. That being said setting boundaries is also acceptable. In other words, yea limit it to calling at night before bed, and maybe on the way to school. She may want to call 24/7 to talk to the kids, but unfortunately, her choices mean she does not have 24/7 access. Her constant calling, if it is interfering with your time with them, needs to be controlled.

For example, on school days my W calls the kids on the way to school (we have an hour drive) and she calls them before bed. I usually talk to them twice a day at set times when she has them. Now if something unusual is going on that one of us wants to share with the kids, no big deal. But if my W was calling 6 times a day I just wouldnt answer 4 or 5 of them. Normally we both send a text asking if the kids can talk. If the parent with the kids is busy or the kids are busy doing something, we will just say "in X minutes".

Again, there is a difference between setting boundaries and purposefully limiting the other parent access out of spite. Find your happy place