So I blanked xmas and will probably blank mother's day. She can have the memory of the gifts on her birthday as a nagging reminder that I am capable of doing thoughtful things. But we're no longer in a spot where I care to do them.
If anything I think I'll ask my kids if they need help getting her something for mother's day, and I'll let them drive the ship entirely. That way my fingerprints won't be on them at all (unlike the birthday stuff).
Pyrite,
As Z wrote earlier in his last post, you are early on with your situtation. But the part I quoted above makes a lot of sense, too. I did not get my WAW anything for Cristmas or Valentine's Day per my therapist's advice. My W walked out and filed for D in late October, so it was only 2 months later that Christmas hit.
As I've thought about it more, maybe you can ask your young children to draw something for your W and leave it at that.
I'm not sure if I'm helping, or confusing you more. I certainly hope this helps.
And, as Z wrote, and I did in my previous post, please make sure you read his earlier post. Very, very good stuff.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
