Signed the lease and told my ww I'm moving out 5/23. At first she was pissed thinking I would leave her with no money each month and she would be screwed. That can't be the case as I will have to compensate her something. She wanted to have a conversation that it's not easy for her to not have me wanting to be her friend and have little to no interaction. I told her every time I slip into one of those modes because it feels comfortable, I hate myself and wonder why I didn't have enough self respect to back down and move on.
We did agree to communicate more on finances, the separation and get the boys in counseling and how to talk to them. Custody is worked out well, so that was positive and did it without fighting.
However, she still is doing her affair, even at the cost of no relationship with me and I am starting to be less anxious about it. My indifference towards her and who/what she does is growing.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23