Parker, good for you with the group. That sounds like a really worthwhile thing to be doing, and it's good that others are there with similar issues too.

I think you are right about your take on D. Your therapist doesn't get to decide if/when is the right time to file for D - you do. If your W feels that strongly about things, she can always file herself presumably.

Glad to see you are doing this work. I'm sure that, no matter what happens with you and your W, you will be glad to have worked through some of this.

T :-)

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus