I think for me is the NEED for acceptance too, combined with a fear of abandonment and rejection, control and anger was going to rear it's ugly head. And it did for years until my aha moment.

My IC and I have spoken about our core beliefs we carry with us from childhood, we are currently working on changing these beliefs. It's frightening how these can manifests itself as our behaviours, highly critical, defensiveness, controlling, making excuses, high expectations of ourselves and others, deflection and this list was from one of my beliefs!

My IC ask me to take a simple Aspergers test because of some of the examples of behaviours I was given her. Result 86% chance on the spectrum.

Both 47 M 20 T25 S 18
EA July 11- Jan 12. ILYBNILWY Oct EA April 13 -July 13
Move to work abroad Sept 14
re establish contact with OW while away
D bomb 22/12/14 D filed papers served 17/03/15