Morning lovely RD. I'm sorry you're having a tough time. Hey listen, I'm worried now that what I posted yesterday may have contributed towards your frame of mind today. I didn't mean to suggest that you should be thinking about being 'done' at all. I see many similarities between your sitch and mine - apart from gender of course :-)
I think we are both married to people who are worth being married to - but who have become lost, adrift, confused and all that goes with that. It isn't a great state of affairs, but it may well be retrievable in time. The big thing that has really mattered to me is that I didn't want to give up on our M too soon. Our R, our M and our vows matter a great deal to me, and I really meant it when I said for better for worse. Now things are 'for worse' for sure, but it matters to me that I truly did all that I could before moving on. And I'm not ready to move on just yet.
Now, I'm not suggesting that you do anything either way. And my train of thought yesterday was purely about your approach and changing your level of availability and support, which could then impact on your sitch going forwards. Is it worth thinking about changing things a little, rather than going all the way to being done? There is more that you could do to protect yourself, draw back and keep moving forwards without fully being done - a nice GAL activity just for RD would be one example. I'm sure there are others.
Anyway, of course it is your decision and we'll all support you whatever you decide. I just wanted to be clear that this isn't what I was hoping for in my posts to you yesterday. As for future R's, there's no need to make decisions about those right now (what, not even Pink or I???) How you feel today may not be how you feel in six months, a year, or longer.
Take care RD ((((RD)))) xxx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
