I am about to be the pot calling the kettle black.
Take a breath and calm you thoughts and your emotions. Because right now they are running you, and that is when mistakes get made.
You need to minimise anything that is going to trigger thoughts and feelings about him. Get off the facebook stalking to start. You are abusing yourself.
Punch yourself in the face right now! Go on do it! Now do it again! And again!
Two things about that suggestion, 1. your brain goes that is a ridiculous thing to do, why would I do that, someone telling me to hurt myself 2. your right it is ridiculous thing to do why would you do something that hurts.
Stop abusing yourself. The other thing is seeing his facebook page, hearing his voice, seeing his picture sends messages to your brain about how much you miss him and need and don't want to lose him! Wrong thoughts right now. Your sending all the stress chemicals around your body, making yourself anxious.
The other thing get out of his head. Its none of your business. Get back in your own business, which is about keeping you cool, calm and collected and making you the best YOU, you can be, someone only a fool would leave.
You know when you first start learning to run, and everything hurts and it feels like an effort to get to the first 1km and then 2 km, and then the more you do what you need to, the easier it gets. This is you running your first 1km and you are breathless and panting and just wanting to get it over. If you want to run the marathon, you have to keep yourself together enough to run the 1km.
Short term pain, long term gain. NO CONTACT! DETACH!
All that is said with all my love (and with a lot of regret for not taking this advice myself)
XXJB
Just a doing weights at gym at the moment. Im on a strict liquid diet at the moment for some surgery at the end of the week, so not enough calories for any too intense.
