WAH with one foot out the door and one in.

[Zues126]

BW-

You're feelings are right. I'm glad you're talking about it here. It is good to vent, and to learn where your feelings are coming from. What concerns me is when you start questioning whether you can keep DBing.

If you are going to save your M you will have to stick to a plan for a period of time even when you don't feel like it. I agree with everything you say. I don't think a spouse should destroy a M because of how they feel. Those feelings can change if you two worked together to change your M. However, look in the mirror and tell yourself the same thing. You don't feel like you want to keep standing for your M. Well, if you give up on the M because you don't feel like putting up with these feelings anymore, how is that any different than what he did?

My motto has always been to act with the character I wished my STBX had. Someone has to step up and be a leader. He's not going to do it. Either step up to the plate or agree with him that it's cool to walk because he didn't feel up to it and you're there with him.

Again, not putting words into your mouth as you haven't quit. Just sharing with you my point of view that's helped me remain committed to DBing.