Tenbook,

Hopefully the Lasagna came out okay. Thanks for the advice. I'm one that usually over analyzes everything I do. I'm comfortable reaching out and talking with people, as I know (and I'm trying to show) that I'm very cautious and not really interested in actually dating. A few weeks ago, I really looked at what I'm 'missing' with WW gone. It was mostly just companionship (and intimacy.) So this is helping on the companionship front.

Gan,

I agree and I'm a fairly religious person, so I've been trying to reconcile in my head what D actually means beyond a piece of paper at the courthouse. It's obvious that WW wants no part of me. There's been really no thawing in the Relationship-front since October. However, I do feel that she's lost and sick; everything I see about her is....really not her. I'm not the only person to see this, her friends and family see the same thing. Regardless of our sitch, I hope she gets help and starts to reconcile with herself her own feelings.

So as far as whether this is would be considered an A or not; right now I'm going by the approach that my interactions are not going beyond what I would have with any other friend. Maybe a little bit more flirting, but still very kosher. This may be temporary and I'll be comfortable moving to the next phase soon, but I don't think so as I know I truly haven't come to the point that I've closed my heart to reconciling. So, I don't see that it's an A or EA. As I said, I thought through this first, but my response of not telling anyone about it was what caused me to pause and ponder whether I'm trying to fool myself.


M:36 W:37
T: 15 M:11
S6 D5
BD: 8/10/14
IDLY: 8/12/14
S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids)
D Mentioned: 10/15/14
Confronted about OM: 10/15/14
EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13
She filed: 8/15 (not final)