Complex #7 - the green(-card) mile

[Complex]

Had some more talking with W.
I mentioned that to me we do not have ground for divorce but I'll respect her decisions. She replied:
"I do not agree with your opinion. There is a ground for divorce: I do not want to be married anymore. I don't love you that way, that is enough ground for divorce. It might sound harsh but it is the truth".
Lol.
I just replied "This might not comply with the moral and value system what marriage actually means but I'll respect what you are thinking. It your opinion, everyone is allowed to have one, but opinions are just opinions. There is an established moral and value system and no opinion can change the truth about that". Or something like that I told her.

It's defensive and a little passive aggressive but at this point I don't care. I speak the truth. That's what matters to me and I am not going to let anyone take those values away from me or anyone else.


I basically told her I'll work with her once my greencard is here and we can settle outside of court. I suggested mediation but she got mad and asked why am I insisting on mediator. She wants to look into paralegal advice first. Lol again. She is just reacting to me even tho I made her an extremely positive suggestion that will totally cater her need to get this done and get it done in a friendly way. Why does she still resist? So immature and ridiculous.

I will sleep over all of this for a few days but I really think I'm ready to just give in. Because I do not want to be with her anymore. Married or not married.

But for sure I will ask for what I deserve. Which means 50% of whatever was squired during the marriage and alimony for a year. I made less money than her bc I joined a business venture with great future potential but not as good of a pay from the start.
Is there anyone who has advice for the process? Also should I open up my own credit card to be able to build credit or can I take over credit from the martial account?
Legal separation with everything negotiated and done like a D is an option too if that helps us financially..taxes etc.