My WW keeps telling me that if I were "nicer" to her that there might be a chance of reconcilliation. She has said this a couple of different ways over the past few months. She keeps saying if we could only be friends again, then who knows what could happen.
Friends of course while she continues her OW thing, and while she has stuck me with the mortgage and all of the bills as she moved out. Friends as she lies to all of our friends about the OW and why we split. So.... the whole "be nicer to me" feels and smells like more like manipulation.
I have followed the advice of the wide DB community here and have improved my cordial skills. I try to view her as a neighbor with whom I a have a friendly relationship with, nothng else.
I am still very wary of her and don't trust her. She makes me very sad that she has hurt me and scared me and just left me out to dry since the whole thing started.
So while I don't avoid her, I will nod a hello if I pass her in the halls at work, that's about it. When we do talk, all I do is validate and mimic back what I hear. I dont share anything about what Ido, am dim and just try to get back on track.
I am trying to detach and am trying desperately to get a life and just get over her and her hurtful behaviors. Some days are better than others I must admit. I have learned a lot about MLC'ers and 100% belive she is in one.
Fun times right?!
Today marks 8 LONG months of hard times for me, therapy, medication, weight loss, hair falling out, support groups, exrecise, and increased kid activities.
