Hi - Ur is right of course, and I am sure I could have handled my sitch better, but actually my children found it difficult when I reminded them he was their father and they might want a relationship further down the line.
My eldest son has said that his father turned into a man he didn't know and didn't (and still doesn't) want to know. He is grateful for the father he had, but said any relationship is just not possible with him. I encouraged him to reach out and respond three or four years back, and it all went sour very fast.
The children accept there is something very wrong with him, but he is not a nice person any more - selfish, bullying, dishonest and entitled. It is sad for the MLCer but neither our children nor we as spouses are responsible for the non relationship. I beat myself up a lot over this one, and honestly, I think I have done my best.
I cut my xh a lot more slack than my kids do. They respect this, and see it is my choice, but the legal action he started against me was the last straw for them.
