Hey M, yep, its me nitpicking again...because I care.
Originally Posted By: Mighty
The part that makes me question, I guess, is that if I went a little too far, then those will be the reminders he has of me. You know, like it takes 100 atta boys to make up for one darn you.
First of all, he will not remember or misremember (dont think thats a word - lol) most of what transpired. And even if he doesnt, you really think you went too far given the circumstances??? Try really hard to get that out of your head, M. He will think what he will, but, you know your truth and that is what matters.
If he were to come through this, I would think what he will remember is that you were there for him for as long as you could be and if he doesnt, then that's on him.
Let those feelings go, Mighty.
I am not surprised by your feelings about other men. You loved deep and true for a very long time. That doesnt go away for a long while. Its a process, sweetie.
Just wanted to write something about the following. Careful to not let your son feel as if he has to protect you. That isnt his job. I say that because my son was around the same age. I made sure he knew I was ok and that he didnt have to worry about me. He was to live his life. He has thanked me many times for that since then. You may not have said anything to your son, but, they are smart.
Originally Posted By: Mighty
And to stop texting me bc I don't want to hear from him either.
As far as how your xh is acting regarding the kids. He is an adolescent right now. Thats his mindset. He doesnt know how to act with them. Sad, I know, but thats how it is right now. I always told my son, he is your father. The only one you will ever have. Figure out a way to have him in your life in some capacity that you feel comfortable with. Otherwise the relationship will be irrevocably broken. I dont mean they should be forced into a relationship, but, that they should think about what they want in the future. Sometimes there is too much hurt to recover from. They are watching you, M. Very closely. I would hate to see them not ever have a relationship with him.
