Alpha Step At A Time #5

[alpha99]

Hi Toots,

As ever thanks for your words of wisdom. I have caught up on your sitch and read about your H missing out on being a FT dad. For me that is the one lingering bone of contention in my own sitch. I have the kids for 3 days each week but with them sleeping over etc I see them in some form for 5 days a week. Of course I miss the day to day life with them but frankly there's nothing I can personally do about that now. Again, W is perfectly clear in wanting to divorce, no ifs, no buts, just needing the money to go through with it.

I'm actually getting on better with the in laws at the moment on those rare occasions I see them. I've only seen W once or twice in over a week. We have limited texts and calls and it's purely to make arrangements. I think I've made giant strides in detachment. I rarely think about W and I don't miss her.

I understand the caution over dating. I am getting out and doing new activities, meeting new people, working out hard at the gym, having fun, and experiencing life in a new way. I do believe that I am making positive changes both in myself and my life, and I see dating as a part of that. This girl somewhat pursued me initially, and it has to be said she is a stunner, a good match for me, and so I'm just rolling with it. I don't know what will happen with her but I'd like to find out. The point being I didn't seek this out but I think I'd be a fool not to explore it.