Lovely RD, I'm so sorry, and would echo what V and RPP say. You are remaining a supportive and constant presence for your W and it is causing you pain as you know she reaches out to you when she has just reached out or is about to reach out to OM. Whatever the status of her R with OM, it is at least an inappropriate friendship, and may well be more.

Perhaps RD should consider further moves to detach a little more. Maybe a GAL plan on W's night at the house. Becoming a little less supportive (but not unpleasant) and more 'business/practical' with W. Start to give the impression that RD has his limits too and they are being tested. I would love to see an RD (not family) GAL plan. Something just for you. Do you have any ideas RD?

Know this - whatever happens with your W - you are a great guy. That comes through in all that you write and all that you do. Nothing can take that away. Keep posting and working through this with us RD.

xxx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus