Thanks guys - I really appreciate your words of support, which make such a difference. It's great to check the forum during a tough period and find that people have looked in on you and offered encouragement.

I'm just letting everything absorb now and will just respond to whatever comes my way. I know it isn't over until it's over, but I'm just starting to adjust my mindset to start thinking of H as my potential STBXH, and there's business to be done between us in the meantime. As you guys say, who knows what may happen down the line, but I need to plan for the worst here. My fear is that he just will not stop now until he has found/made another family....and still maybe isn't happy. But there isn't much I can do about that.

Anyway, I'm doing okay, and have been pretty calm. I imagine it may hit me at some point though. I'm volunteering at the bookstore this morning, and going to the theatre with my Dad and a couple of family friends tonight - should be nice...

Have a good day my lovely DB friends xx

Last edited by Toots; 05/02/15 06:24 AM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus