WAH with one foot out the door and one in.

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Zues - I see you've posted on my thread as well. I'll reply to the above over there. You and I are a bit further along in this than BW and so I don't want her to feel like we've hijacked her thread with this massive topic. Really keen to keep exploring it with you (and others) though...

BW05 - I remember being where you are now (H doing his own thing, sleeping in spare bedroom etc). If I could have a do over I would have ramped up my own GAL during this time - going out more, coming home late, wearing new things, looking good, smelling great etc. Without kids it really can become tricky if H moves out. Really encourage you to focus on you and work some mystery into your life right now. The other issues (working on the sex and porn issues etc come later if/when H indicates he wants to reconnect). In the meantime I certainly encourage you to read the Schnarch books and develop a different perspective on the issues above.