A friend of mine said yesterday that she thought that he might be one of these people that only can do one thing at the time. He's been so invested in me, us and now when his kids needs him due to their mum having a new baby, he only wants to focus on them. And that might make him feel that he's got no energy to put into our R. Maybe she's right.
Hey Tulo, everything you said makes perfect sense. This is still really raw (when was BD? Can you add a signature?).
Be careful about diagnosing your WAH...I think friends and family do this a lot, spin theories about what's wrong with your WAH that he would do this. The fact is that while he's clearly a flawed human being, we ALL are. And maybe you are seeing him at his worst right now.
If you read my last thread you'll note that when I was young I went through a couple of years in which I was making not the healthiest decisions. I was definitely at my worst. And towards the end of my M I made MORE horrible decisions. Again, my worst.
Yet I am not a bad guy. My WAW thinks so, and she has surely spend many a night diagnosing my problems with her friends and family.
My point is I think this isn't a great road to go down. I am proud you haven't done much of that on your posts, so I'm not chastising, just warning you it's a slippery slope. Your friends want you to feel better and cheer you up. You want to grow and potentially save your M. So continue to focus on you, and have compassion for your WAH. This is definitely the "worse" in for better and for worse, so be proud that you're a strong loving W that will stand for your M.
Take care of yourself this weekend and keep posting!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
