I know there are no guarantees but.....

[Mozza]

Don't discredit the whole profession of IC because you've had two disappointing experiences. My IC has been tremendously helpful to me and a lot of what I share here are actually insights that he helped me find. At first, I was like you and seeking technical advice: What do I DO now to win her back? I thought it would last a few weeks or months. Ha! But my IC is from the psychoanalytic branch, that's the one often caricatured saying "Hm hm" while the client is lying down on a chair. So it takes much longer, but it goes much deeper. Your comments about honesty are probably very genuine to you. You'll wonder how they can even be questioned. But what we're trying to help you identify here are the deeper currents that guide your thoughts and actions. Some things will never reach your conscious mind because they are too uncomfortable. I know that my IC often makes me realize that I'm saying the opposite of what I do, or what I think. My thoughts appear very clear to me, until he points at these contradictions. I often come back from my sessions with some basic ideas shaken to their core.

Google "This is water David Foster Wallace" and look for the Vimeo link (sorry, Cadet no longer lets us link from here). I think it might help you a little to take distance from your own thoughts and perceptions. As George Orwell said: "To see hat's in front of one's nose needs a constant struggle."