Think about what they'd say in AA if you said, WHILE YOU WERE DRUNK, "I'm thinking about quitting"... Great. Sober the heck up, show up for a meeting, tell your story, and make it convincing. But until you're sober we have nothing to talk about!
So please quit hanging on her every action waiting for her to be ready to recommit to M. It only hurts your heart and takes your eyes off your growth.
Thats....really good advice, and I thank you for it.
I'm in that spot....where I don't question what I should do every day. I'm not pursuing, we're not in contact, I'm not snooping or going by the house to see what vehicles are there, and almost every moment I'm not w my kids I'm staying busy w something.
The problem is internal. The dull ache. The suspicion of an A. The despair. The loss. The fear. What my psyche is going through. I know the goal is to get rid of all of those things but I just haven't yet. I need to look at the next 3 feet knowing the putt I'm trying to make is 30 feet.
