Based on what I'm seeing and hearing with my W (too much to post everything)... I believe my W is starting to come out of the fog of her A. I also think she is starting to show interest in our marriage again.
I think she has ended the fantasy of a relationship with the OM but thinks she can still maintain a friendship with him. I know she cares about him and she never wants to hurt anyone's feelings (by directly cutting off all contact with the OM).
For these reasons, I had the above talk with my W. I felt like she needed leadership about a clear path forward, leaving no ambiguity.
