Making sure that my post contains no "X's" I don't want you to get any ideas.
I agree with Bob, that statement about seeing the changes can been written by any of us. Especially since everyone sees the destruction the WW is causing in their own lives....except themselves (oh no, an X)
As far as detachment, I never ever thought I would get there, I had a run in with WW about taxes a few weeks back in which I did EVERYTHING to try and make it easy and straightforward for her and she still chose to take a different route and change her mind from what we had originally planned. Well when her decision had negative consequences for her; she blamed me. The conversation that followed, she was yelling at me in front of D4. It was so ridiculous because she couldn't even explain how I was anyway responsible for it, when I asked her. She just kind of looked at me. At that point it all clicked in my head....there is no understanding their reason for actions; just understanding how they are reacting to life. It doesn't matter why something happened; their defense is to blame the LBH; even if they themselves can't justify it.
Well, it was the "last straw" of detachment. I would have never thought that I would get there just a few minutes prior. I went on with my evening; with little affect on my attitude. Since then, everything is clearer; the dark cloud seems to be lifted and surprisingly, my fear that I just "wouldn't care about her or our M" did not come true. It's just I finally accepted for myself I can't help her when she doesn't want help.
Hopefully your detachment happens soon, its freeing. Its the unexpected things that may make it happen, like me.
Last edited by MCS; 05/01/1509:01 PM.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
