I know there are no guarantees but.....

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Mozza, I am not trying to enter a slipperly slope. I am trying to be a friend. I am not going to give this person a second shot at hurting me as she did many years ago.

I am also not trying to cover my actions with words and if I do that PLEASE call me out on it. I am being very honest and open on here and that is NOT my normal character. (Much easier to do with people I will probably never meet perhaps??)
For one I am looking for some legitimate HELP and it does me no good to lie or not to take the help (advice) when it is offered up. Wastes people's time and is counter productive. I can assure you I have no reason to ask for help, take away your (or anybody else's) precious time for themselves or with their families and then do the opposite or lie about something.
For me respect is a huge deal and I am trying to earn all of yours and don't want to lose it, along with the support and advice I am receiving here.

I have had two counselors. LOL I am lucky enough to have some counseling through my agency that is free for several sessions and in which no one from the department asks any questions...they just pay.

The first counselor was bad. She didn't have a clue what to do with me. For real. There were times when she would just sit there when I finished talking like she didn't no WHAT to say.
I talked to her about the fact that I was looking for help with anger management or how to deal with the anger instead of allowing it to bleed into my personal and family life.
I talked to her about my quickly ending marriage. Her ONLY advice, after multiple sessions, was for me to get my wife and nice card and some flowers. She said this on two different occasions. I didn't go back.....

The second counselor was from a different group. She was better but still did not seem to be able to give me any definitive techniques to try or follow to help me deal with the anger that I have had.
She did sit there with her mouth open during my story....I've become accustomed to this reaction. She suggested a few books and I have gotten more out of those, reading DB and DR and talking to you all than I have from the therapists.
I have lost faith in that profession and avenue of help currently...I needed some HELP and her best college educated several hundred dollar an hour advice was, "Well you could always get her a nice card and some flowers."
If I thought that would work I'd have bought her a card everyday and turned the backyard into a rose garden!!

I welcome yours and any other's thoughts, questions, comments, concerns, 2 x 4's even on the above two posts (or further back if you are looking for some (lol) light reading.)

Sandi2, Mozza and Cadet....thank you for your time and concern.... really!