Mighty, Please read and re-read uRworthy's posting. She's 100% correct in telling you that there is nothing you could have done to stop his crisis. It wouldn't have mattered if he was married to a beautiful movie star or the Queen of England, it was destined to happen because of his childhood issues. Heck, he could have been a monk or a priest and it would still have happened. He could have been just a plain old single guy and it would have happened. His crisis is all about him and not you.
When you attempt to snatch them out of the crisis, they will eventually go back into crisis and it will be far worse than the first time around.
Mighty, you did absolutely nothing wrong, you can't fix something you didn't cause and/or break. Keep the focus on you and your healing. Your xh has to find a way to heal himself because he's the only one that can do it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
