New, trying to save marriage

[Winhamn]

You gotta read the book. Make it a priority, make time to read it.

First, the book is totally pro-marriage. I don't know the answer to "why are you still married", only you do, but you are right that the spark could return.

Second, you are not using a solution focused approach. This fights are not getting anything accomplished.

The book will help you consider some alternatives to knock down, drag out, screaming matches. Things that could actually HELP!!