I've never had an EA and can say that I was never tempted to leave or cheat on my WW. I'm not saying I'm immune, but that I agree that I lack the insight of how it can happen. Perhaps I'd be more forgiving, less suspicious.
Thanks for all of your thoughts, Mozza. I haven't posted a lot but I did follow a lot of the dating debate on your threads.
The EA I had was never all that close to PA (I think...), but it happened just like everyone says it does. My ENs were starved, and this other women started fulfilling some of them (everything but sex and other physical things). I would like to think that if she'd stayed here, I would have cut it off, but some distance between us, something. But I can't say with 100% certainty that I would have done that, with how I felt during that time. Before all of that, I just thought you had to be a terrible person to even entertain the thought. I'll never believe that again. I'm still not saying it's justified or okay, I just find it much more understandable and forgiveable. STBX's A has nothing to do with why I wouldn't want to attempt to R with her. That would be a very low hurdle compared to the other mountains we'd have to climb.
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
