"Either she didn't know I was out of town or she actually respected my request that she didn't go over while I wasn't there."

Why are you surprised? Do you have that much lack of respect for her already that you're not willing to give her the benefit of the doubt?

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER