How should I answer

[rob123]

I am going out. I'm going to the gym when ever she decides to come home. I've gone out couple time since this all started. It's hard for me to get out when she's always working. Like the gym today. I would like to go around 6 but instead I'll have to wait till she gets home between 6 and 8:30 depending on meeting or if she stops off for a drink with friends. Little selfish. Her gym days she never has to wait. Sitter watching S tomorrow. She's going out with her friends and me mine. I don't think me going out trying to move on bothers her. If it does W hides it well.

I think you should take her advice about going to the gym and then going to pick the kids up, rather than waiting on her to get home to go. In my opinion, you need to prepare yourself that regardless of how the sitch ends, you will be ready for whatever. If you get D, then you will need to find time to go to the gym.

I was thinking you could do something like the following... 1.) Go workout after work, 2.) Pick Up Kids, 3.) Go out and do something fun when your W gets home tonight when you ask her to keep the kids for a bit, 4.) Profit

I know it is difficult (it was for me too) to not focus all of our actions on our children. It is good to be a loving and caring parent, but it is also good for you to be able to make yourself happy. It sounds like you are getting more and more hurt by the fact your W seems to be doing whatever she wants while she knows that you will take care of the kids and the home.

Again, switch it up on her. I'm not sure anything of the above will actually work, but I'm just throwing around some ideas you could potentially use. Hope something I have written her may be useful in your sitch. Good luck